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Don’t Fear The Giants

Don’t Fear The Giants

Sep 6, 2010

My son loves watching the WWE (World Wrestling Entertainment, for those who don’t know).  Knowing full well that the wrestling is all fake he still enjoys the battles and drama that play out constantly.  Now, myself I don’t much like the WWE because of all the drama, showboating, long and boring monologues, and lack of reality in the fights themselves.  I suppose that much of that comes from actually having been a kickboxer and fighter for over 10 years.

One day my son was really getting into a match between a wrestler called The Great Khali and a wrestler called Rey Mysterio.  The Great Khali, Dallp Singh Rana, is billed at being 7 feet 1 inch tall and 420 pounds.   Rey Mysterio, Oscar Gutlerrez, is billed at being 5 foot 6 inches tall and 175 pounds.  This match, at first blush, would seem to be a complete blowout simply due to the difference in size and power.  The Great Khali is a former powerlifter in real life, and won the Mr. India competition in 1995 and 1996.  For those who don’t ever watch WWE, you can see The Great Khali in the following movies:  The Longest Yard (2005) as Turley, Get Smart (2008) as Dalip, and MacGruber (2010) as Tug Phelps.

As to be expected, Rey Mysterio was over-powered for most of the match while the very imposing Khali threw him about the ring with ease and inflicted great pain by grabbing, choking and pounding on Mysterio.  But Rey had his moments where he was able to capitalize on Khali’s weaknesses.  Toward the end of the match, when it looked as though Mysterio would meet his demise at the hands of his very large adversary, another wrestler came out of nowhere to flatten Khali and save Mysterio, allowing him to fight another day.

As over dramatic and theatrical as all this was, I couldn’t help but think about how this could relate to us in our everyday lives. We all have giants that we face a different times in our life.  And sometimes those giants can be really big and really scary if we’re honest with ourselves.

Real World Giants

Sexual abuse, physical abuse, bankruptcy, divorce, drugs, child abuse, alcohol, rape, molestation, homosexuality, adultery, depression, lying, stealing, low self-esteem, job loss, financial instability, prison, lack of education, lack of faith, loss of a loved one, death, failed business venture, pornography and lust, fear of the economy, and the list goes on.

The husband of a depressed wife knows the challenge of a promise.  He wonders what happened to the woman he married as he watches her stumble through her life unable to find relief or happiness.  He wonders if he can keep his promise made the day the got married.

A man fears for his job so he over exaggerates his sales pipeline or the progress he’s making on a project or he undermines someone else in order to make himself look better or maybe he decides to get as much as he can from his employer before he’s fired by stealing.

A husband cheats on his wife, destroying the trust she had in him… maybe forever.  And if he is a man with a conscience he’s wrought with guilt and fear that he’s possibly thrown away something wonderful.  And if the affair happened at work

Parents of runaway, parents of the handicapped and disabled, and even parents of healthy toddlers struggle with worry, anxiety, exhaustion, and the inability to control their situation.  Stresses, if unchecked, build and start to affect the marriage.

Our giants don’t run at us with swords and shields, yet they are every bit as fearsome and dangerous.  You face your giants in the boardroom at work, or in the classroom, or when you come home to your wife and kids.  Your giants don’t have an audible voice that booms throughout the countryside but you know the sound your giants make when they come.  You hear their voices in your head telling you you’re worthless, that you will never win, that you’ll never be good enough, there’s no way you can pay your bills, someone’s going to find out that you’re just a fraud, the scream of anger and frustration in your head.

You know your giants all too well.  They are the first thing you think about when you wake up in the morning, they’re the last thing you think about before you fall asleep at night, and they dominate your day.

Winning the Battle

Our giants gain their strength from us!  Natural reaction to fear is to either freeze, fight or flight.  Said another way, when confronted with something that truly scares us and elicits a fear response in us we will either:

  • Cower in fear, hoping that it will just go away on its own,
  • Decide to face the issue head-on and engage in battle, or
  • Run away in the hopes that we can out run and avoid the issue altogether.

As men, the most difficult thing for us to do is to call for backup or to ask someone else to fight with us.  We’re men after all, and we’ve always been taught that we need to fight our own battles.  We’re warriors, we’re captains of industry, we’re leaders in our field, we’re the dad, we’re the head of the household damn it!  We can do this ourselves.

Asking for help is a sign of weakness and failure, right!?

And right then, just when we say “I can do this on my own”, we give our giants everything they need to completely destroy us.  Now they’re laughing and calling their friends who were waiting just over the hill…  waiting for us to step out alone and challenge them in our own strength.  They quickly surround us and beat us into a twisted wreck or they frustrate and confuse us so much that we start lashing out and destroying the good guys who may run in to help us.  Either way, they win and we lose.

We all know the story of David and Goliath.  Great kids’ story right?  Two armies stood on opposite sides of a valley knowing full well that committing to an attack would mean their army would lose high ground advantage and face defeat.  For 40 days a giant Philistine named Goliath, standing almost 10 feet tall, called out to the army of Israel to send a warrior to battle him man-to-man to determine the outcome of the face off.  For 40 days the army of Israel’s best soldiers trembled because of Goliath, fearing that if they faced this giant alone they would not only lose their life but also lose the battle and cause their entire civilization to fall into slavery.  Not only facing the physical giant in Goliath, but also the giants represented by the fear of a merciless death at the hands of Goliath, and the fear of causing your entire society to be plunged into slavery.

How similar are our giants?

One young boy, a teenage shepherd named David, thought this whole scene was ridiculous and that this giant needed to die!  Shunning the tools and trappings of the warriors of his day he set out with 5 smooth stones to face Goliath.  The giant laughed at him and mocked him thinking that this young man was no match at all.  But the thing Goliath didn’t understand was that David didn’t go to battle alone.  He called on his God to go before him in battle and to defeat this enemy.  Having done this before and seeing his God show up when he had to battle lions and bears that attempted to run off with his sheep, David was sure he was not going into this battle alone.

We win the battles against our giants when we don’t try to fight them alone.  We win the battles against our giants when we know we have been given the proper tools and skills to fight.  If you’re a man of faith, and I don’t just mean by profession, then seek God first for wisdom, guidance and His hand in defeating the giants.  Whether or not you’re a man of faith be sure to bring in trusted advisers and backup to help you in your fight.

Life is not a individual sport, it requires teamwork.

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